Being a Mommy


I've been a mommy now for almost 8 months, more when you count my time before Tabby was born. I've been a working mom for almost 6 months of that period (note: I do not say “working mom” to trivialize what it is that so-called “stay at home moms” do, I just say it to differentiate!). I like to think that I've gotten my juggling act together in that time period … more or less. Sure, the house, while clean, is generally cluttered (though this is mostly, in my opinion, due to lack of space, not effort!) and plenty of items on my to-do list that once would have been handled within hours or days seem to take much longer, but generally, I've worked it out. I stay at home with Tabby on Mondays so we get a bit of extra time. And I hit the road running early the rest of the week and work late or work from home to make up my Monday. I feel like I've got it pretty good, still contributing to my family's income and spending good time with my baby girl. No doubt it's sometimes a hard row to hoe, but y'know … that's how life is.

Anyhoo, one thing I'd never thought of before deciding upon this path was that I wouldn't be able to do some of the normal “mommy things.” No mommy-and-me classes. No mommy groups. They all meet during the day while I'm working. Of course this makes sense, but it is a little frustrating. To be fair, there are one or two “working moms” groups that meet in the evenings or on weekends, but none in my area. Any one of them would be a good 30-45 minute drive for me in normal traffic (not rush-hour!) and let's get real. That just ain't happening on a week-night. So I'm thinking of starting my own group. This is sort of terrifying for me since I am not big with that sort of thing. I'm an OK leader if I've gotta do it, but it's nothing I ever seek out. Now we'll see if A) I'm brave enough and B) I can find the time to get it all together. Any advice is appreciated.

7 Replies to “Being a Mommy”

  1. Good luck with the group if you decide to do it. I have a hard enough time juggling taking care of my house, my pets, working, etc. And I have no kids yet! I can't imagine what its going to be like once we do have kids! But not many families can afford stay at home moms anymore.

  2. Dude. I say go for it. Why should you be slighted from Mom's groups because you work? meetup.com is a great place. It might cost like a few bucks to start a group, but I think it's free for people to join. That's how I found a local mom's group. It's a shame we don't live closer.

  3. You totally should!

    I echo Statia; there's an active moms group in my area through meetup.com & it's totally easy (& not very time consuming) to get started.

    I found you through magical childhood. Am always glad to meet another Jessica!

  4. Go for it… I think you are loads of fun and would totally hang out with ya if we lived closer lol…

    but not sure if you have checked… But some MOPS and MOM clubs meet at night once a month… you might want to check their websites (MOPS I know you can check by zip code for ones close to you) and if they don't have one at night… ask when they do mom's night out… and see if you can at least join on those fun nights…

  5. Meetup.com is a great source for stuff like that, don't forget about Yahoo. There's a few groups on there for moms in different areas and it's FREE!

  6. That's a great idea! I'm sure there are lots of moms that would join. I know I always felt so guilty that I couldn't do those day activities with my babies. I would've loved to have an evening option.

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