Moving Got Me Down

I know I know, two weeks have gone by without me posting, after I just.resolved.to.post.more! But seriously?

This is what it’s like around my house:

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And this … 2014-01-30 22.20.32And this …

2014-01-30 22.21.17And this!

2014-01-30 22.20.14By the way, the purple wall that Matt and I both adore is getting painted over today. I’m not looking forward to it. Boooooo.

But the house is pretty much not ours anymore. It has very little in the way of our STUFF in it. Almost everything is off the walls, out of the cabinets and closets, and in storage or at our short-term home. It has had all the personality SUCKED out of it.

So we are making the big push this weekend to be living in our short-term home. Though it is small, it has some advantages – like proximity to some of our best friends and being within walking distance to a charming little town – and I’m actually really looking forward to a scaled down life, at least for a while.

So that’s what I’ve been up to – burning the candle at both ends, just making things happen. Work all day, pack all night. But it’s almost done. I’m like 95% sure of it.

 

 

House Stuff

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If the first 16 days of 2014 are any indication, it’s going to be a busy, exciting year.

We have been working hard around our house, getting it ready to be sold. This means lots of packing, trips to Goodwill, trips to storage (i.e. our very generous friends’ basement), and trips to Home Depot! Which means that, more often than not, our house looks like that (above). It’s a little stressful for me, honestly.

2014-01-13 20.47.03We had the carpet in the kids’ rooms replaced yesterday. It doesn’t look too bad in this photo, but believe me when I say, IT WAS BAD. And the carpet from the master, which is getting replaced next week is HORRENDOUS. Light carpet + dark dog = no beueno.

So we had to disassemble Ben’s bed … which is bascially like an indoor deck. You can practically put a Volkswagen on top of it and it would be just fine. So it IS heavy. And it got pushed onto my foot and I was pretty sure it was broken for about five minutes, but it’s just really smashed up and bruised.

2014-01-14 19.27.03-2The kids were thrilled, because they got to sleep on mattresses on the floor while we handle getting everything demo’d and put back together. Honestly, it went pretty poorly and we ended up separating them BOTH nights. So I’m really looking forward to the rental house where they’ll have to share a bedroom. That should be good fun for all.

2014-01-15 14.39.06The new carpet looks very good. It’s not this dark in real life, honest, and has a more brownish hue to it. Anyway, it should hide a multitude of sins. Not that we get to enjoy that feature. That’s one of the biggest bummers of selling is fixing things that we’ll never get to enjoy. Something to keep in mind for the new place, I guess.

At the new place, not much is happening. It’s still a pile of dirt, but it has a permit pending and we’re placing bets on whether or not we sell our house before the dirt starts flying at the new place. They think we’ll be in by the end of June though. I hope they’re right!!

What a Weekend

2014-01-11 10.16.58What a weekend. Oy.

Friday Tabby went home from school with her bestie to start celebrating her bestie’s birthday early. She was gone until late in the evening, so we had a quiet evening at home with Ben – made cookies, prepped for skiing. Just before we needed to pick Tabby up, we ran a couple of errands, including a stop at Target. I glanced through the dollar bin in anticipation of Tabby’s Valentine’s class party and didn’t see much. Ben, however, fell madly in love with a small stuffed dog in the approximately 2 seconds he laid eyes on him. When we said a perfectly-normal “no” to his request to bring him home, we were treated to a 30 minute screech fest fit. This is not normal of Ben. He has mostly recovered from the temper tantrum stage and it was quite a BAD surprise.

Then Saturday… A few weeks ago we agreed to go to the mountains with a bunch of friends. It was sort of an against-our-better-judgement scenario because of all the work we still need to finish before we list our house, but we’d been working really hard and figured “What the heck?” we can take a day off. The plan was to leave Denver early Saturday, get to the slopes in plenty of time, enjoy a nice day, have a nice dinner, sleep our 8 hours and head back to town early.

Best laid plans.

We got going early – not quite as early as we’d planned, but still pretty early. Unfortunately (we found out much later) there’d been an early morning accident that had already hosed the drive. We spent over 3 hours for a 1 hour drive. The kids were well-behaved, plugged into their TVs and we only had a couple of incidents, aside from us wanting to gouge our eyes out from stop-and-go frustration.

One, unfortunately, was when my sister (who decided to join us last minute) had to help Ben pee in a cup – because there wasn’t much of a choice – didn’t go perfectly cleanly. Err …. eew. And the other right before we reached our destination and another car cut us off and we almost hit them. Luckily Matt is a very skilled crap-conditions driver and we avoided collision.

Once we got there, the day, which had supposed to have been nasty, was lovely and we had a few great hours of skiing. The kids were into it. The weather was perfect and other than some small incidents – Tabby’s pass got lost somewhere between the car and the slopes and Ben lost his ski on the first chairlift ride – it was great. We took a dip in the pool and hot tub before we went to our hotel room to get ready for dinner.

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Dinner was probably the easiest time. The kids went to the Kids’ Club and the adults had a nice dinner with multiple adult beverages and perfect viewing of the playoff game. Our allotted 3 hours went really quickly and we picked the kids up right around 9. When we got back to the hotel room, I gave the kids a choice of either sleeping on the floor “camping style!!!” with my much-coveted super-soft green blanket or in the other bed with Aunt Gaga.

My normally mild-mannered 6 year old decided then and there that this was a have-her-cake-and-eat-it-too situation and she was going to have both come hell or high water! So we were treated to another colossal meltdown courtesy of the other kiddo. Making this even more fun was the fact that we were in a hotel and had nowhere else to go and I was constantly worried we were disturbing everyone in the building and our friends next door in particular.

Finally after we threatened (and MEANT IT) to go home,  she calmed down and we all went to bed and got some halfway decent sleep.

The kids were up early as usual and we knew we might have a long drive back to Denver, so we decided to head out. We’d talked about having breakfast with friends before leaving, but when Matt checked the travel advisory site right before we left, he found that things were already looking grim and we bailed on breakfast and headed home.

2014-01-12 09.12.37-2Grim was a sort of understatement. We had intermittent white-out conditions with blowing snow and icy roads. The only saving grace was that we never had them at the same time. It was slow, white-knuckle driving. The kids, once again plugged into their DVDs, behaved very well and there were only a few very scary moments – one complete white out when I really thought we should just turn around. But once again, a 1 hour drive took us almost three going home.

So about 6 hours of driving for about 4 hours of skiing, 3 hours of adult time and a crappy night’s sleep. Really not a great ROI.

Once we got back, we had unpacking, laundry, grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning to do which left us with no time to actually make progress on our house. It’s mostly our own fault, but that doesn’t make it any less irritating. At least the Broncos won.

 

Looking at 2014

2013 got derailed in a couple of ways, namely my new and markedly more intense job and Mom’s death. Between these two things, I’m impressed to have just survived the year, yet, when I look back on my 2013 resolutions, I didn’t do so badly. When adjusted for the handicaps of 2013, I will consider it a win.

So what does 2014 have in store for me? Good things, I hope.

Family

I recently read The Five Love Languages of Children and took some time to chat with the kids about how/when they feel best loved by us. Quality time was the clear marker. They love reading, cooking and crafting together and going on outings and trips. With that and other things in mind:

  • make a concerted effort to do things with the kids – big and small
  • continue the tradition of Sunday night dinners with my dad, sister and grandma
  • get back in the habit of taking photos, even if it’s just with our phones
  • have date nights at least monthly with Matt
  • continue to encourage personal responsibility through chores and schoolwork

Personal

Since Mom passed away, I’ve put on about 5 lbs that add to some other slippage that had already occurred. Beyond losing a few pounds and getting my running back on track, I’d like to finish another triathlon. There’s a few other small areas I’d like to work on too:

  • the health and fitness stuff
  • finish another triathlon
  • run my 1/2 marathon in April in 2:15 or less
  • keep reading great books, 52 for the year
  • buy myself a few new clothes now and again – and not just workout clothes as I’d prefer
  • blog at least twice a week, including some of our family’s favorite new recipes

At Work

  • plan my week before it starts
  • finish the dang website before the end of January
  • meet my direct mail and press release goals

At Home

  • continue our excellent track record of at-home cooking for dinner
  • fill the freezer with extras so we don’t eat out for lunch (on weekends) as much
  • complete our move and organize the new house

 

The Good of 2013

It was a fast and furious ending to 2013. I had crazy fits and starts trying to finish a project at work (long story short, it STILL isn’t done). I spent a ton of time playing Santa and chef de cuisine. I caught strep throat and left Matt alone with 4 kids while I slept for 48 hours straight. We packed up most of our house and started killing things off on the before-we-sell-to-do-list. We rang in the New Year with some great friends and then spent the first week of 2014 relaxing and skiing. Blogging  has been one of the last things on my mind. But it’s important to me and I do want to get back to it.

In a subsequent post, I plan to list off resolutions for last year and new ones for this year, but now I want to reflect on 2013. I started to do a retrospective questionnaire about the year and realized it was pointless. The most major thing about 2013 was definitely losing my mom and all roads sort of lead back to that terrible event. But I’m a glass-is-half-full kind of girl all the way around and I know Mom wouldn’t want me dwelling on the crap, so I’m going to list off 10 great things that happened last year.

  1. I watched my sweet kiddos grow and mature another year – they’re exceeding my expectations and are truly lovely little people. Tabby can read anything you put in front of her and is making amazing strides in math, music and SKIING. Ben has all the good foundations to start kindergarten and learned to ride a bike and can ski with the best of ’em. Best of all, I’m proud of their characters. They are kind, thoughtful people.
  2. I got to spend another wonderful year with my hubby who continues to be the best husband and father to my kiddos I could ask for. We’ve laughed, cried, tackled crazy projects together and had lots of fun.
  3. I found a new closeness with my dad, sister, family, friends and coworkers who were so incredible when Mom passed away. You all made it bearable.
  4. We got to take a wonderful trip with Matt’s step mom, sister and niece. It was a great experience we all fully enjoyed.
  5. I completed a sprint triathlon. That still kind of boggles my mind.
  6. I sought and was awarded a promotion to marketing manager, a role I’m still trying to figure out.
  7. We decided to sell our house and build a new one.
  8. We had amazing adventures skiing and camping.
  9. We got to gather with our extended, extended family for our bi-annual reunion in August.
  10. We got hedgehogs!

I can’t say I’m sad to see 2013 go and I’m a little apprehensive about my first official calendar year without Mom, but I’m going to do my best to continue to enjoy life and find pleasure in the good stuff. It’s still there. I just wish Mom was here to share it with us.